Great Conversationalist

How to be a Great Conversationalist

Most people try to make a good impression by talking about their achievements, their line of work, their interests, etc. However, if you want to make a great, memorable impression, take an interest in the other person. Ask your date about his or her work, hobbies, family, pets, etc.

It’s true, people naturally like to talk about themselves. When you encourage someone to talk about themselves, they’ll remember you as a great conversationalist, and a great date. In other words, to make a great impression spend less time talking about yourself and more time listening to the other person.

If you are the type of person who gets nervous, you may want to plan out a few conversation starters ahead of time. Usually once you get talking about an interesting topic, the conversation will flow easily. However, it’s always uncomfortable when you run into an awkward silence. If you thought of a few conversation starters ahead of time, you don’t have to worry about uncomfortable lags in the conversation. Simply ask the person a question or make an observation on a current event, and you’ll be right back into free-flowing conversation.

Note: if the other person doesn’t take an interest in you – if he or she never asks about you – consider that a red flag. While he or she may enjoy the attention and your interest when you ask lots of questions, eventually the conversation at some point should steer in your direction. If not, you possibly have found someone who’s a bit self-absorbed.