Right And Wrong

Let me give you an analogy…

Let’s suppose that you and I were standing in the middle of a city block, and we decided to walk to a certain cross street. You take off in a straight path and take the route that’s the shortest distance between where we are and where we want to be.

On the other hand I go the long way around, and it takes me ten minutes longer to reach our destination.

Who’s right and who’s wrong in this example? Actually, we’re both right, and neither one of us is wrong.

You see, if efficiency is important to you, then taking the shortest path is the best path – for you.

However, let’s suppose I’m recovering from heart surgery, and my surgeon says I need to walk for at least 15 minutes each day. Now it makes sense that I took the long way around, as my health demands it. As such, the long path was right – for me.

Can you see how we can both be right even though our ways of accomplishing the same task (walking from point A to point B) differ?

The same goes for you and your partner. You need to learn to view each other unconditionally, without judgement, without reservation and without strings or expectations. Once you do that, your relationships deepens as you allow each other to express your personality to the fullest. Only when we allow others the freedom to be themselves (as opposed to molding their behavior with our expectations) do we truly begin to know them.

I’ll warn you, though, that this isn’t easy. Don’t worry if you mess up sometimes and judge the other or expect. Recognize your mistake, apologize, and commit to viewing the other person unconditionally.