Unconditional Love

Unconditional love means viewing the other person as a wonderful human being, and reserving any judgement. That means that whatever choices each of you make is right for that person at the time. There is no “wrong.” You may not agree with choices the other person makes, and you may not have made those choices for yourself, but you support the person’s freedom to make those choices.

Unconditional love means that you are freed from the burden of another’s expectations. If we impose expectations on someone and decide how they should behave, eventually they will disappoint us. Offering unconditional love means there are no more disappointments, because you don’t expect the other person to behave the way you want them to behave. We don’t mold others the way we want them to be – instead, we accept them just the way they are.

For those who are unfamiliar with unconditional love, it can be a hard concept to wrap your mind around. We’re tempted to say, “but what if he IS wrong? Why can’t I tell him he’s wrong?”

True unconditional love means that you don’t even view the other person as wrong when he or she does something that you wouldn’t have done. The best way to think about it is that we are all on our paths of life learning as we go. Your path is different from my path. But that doesn’t mean your path – or my path – are wrong. They are right for us as individuals, and that’s all that matters.